What is NLP
What is NLP?
N= Neurology= The mind and How we think.
L=Linguistics=How we use Language and how it affect us.
P=Programming= How we sequence our actions to achieve our goals.
First thing first.what is NLP? but this trick question . you can not pin NLP down to single defination. there are many explanation of NLP. each like a beam of light shining from differnt angle, pick put the whole shape and shadow of the subject.
Pillars of NLP
NLP started in USA in the early 1970′s at the University of Santa Cruz. The founders were Richard Bandler
They identified four pillars of NLP.
The first pillar is Rapport. This is one of the most important gifts that NLP has given us. When you are building a relationship with others and with yourself you want to build rapport. NLP teaches us great techniques that we can use to quickly gain rapport with individuals who we deal with at work, in our day to day family life or strangers we come across who we want to build rapport with quickly and easily.
The second pillar is Sensory Awareness. The ability to perceive or experience through the lens of our own 5 senses. Do you notice when you walk into someone’s home or a new store what you see – the colours and décor, or do you hear – music playing or people talking or do you smell – food cooking, or do you notice flowers blooming. Each of us notices different things and uses our sensors to experience life. NLP helps us understand how each of us views the world and assists us in better communicating as a result of understanding how we perceive the world vs how others may perceive it. Asking questions and observing reactions or by knowing how a person processes information helps us better understand them and hence results in better communication with them.
The third pillar is Outcome Thinking. This is about knowing what you want rather than what you don’t want. NLP provides you with tools that help you take charge of your life, in order to focus on desired outcomes and hence achieve the results you want. It helps you remove negative thoughts and beliefs and focus on desired goals instead.
The fourth pillar is Behavioural Flexibility. If something isn’t working for you, it’s about being flexible and changing your behaviour. Every minute of our day, we take in millions of pieces of information through the 5 senses. At the conscious level, we simply can’t deal with that much information. So our mind filters the information we receive into chunks of 7 plus or minus 2 chunks containing about 130 bits of information a second. So what happens to the rest of the information, well we delete, distort or generalize it. Each of us will filter the information differently as we all view things differently based on our personal values, beliefs, attitudes, memories, past experiences and decisions.
What is supposition?
NLP presuppositions are no more than generalisations about the world that can prove useful to you when you act as if they’re true. In the following sections, we describe some of the presuppositions that we consider to be most influential out of several that the founders of NLP developed.
1)The map is not the territory
One of the first presuppositions is that ‘the map is not the territory’. This statement was published in Science and Sanity in 1933 by Korzybski, a Polish count and mathematician.
2)People respond according to their map of the world
Like all humans, you respond in accordance with the map of the world you hold in your head. This map is based on what you believe about your identity and on your values and beliefs as well as your attitudes, memories, and cultural background.
Sometimes, the map of the world from which one person operates may not make sense to you. However, a little understanding and tolerance can help to enrich your life.
3)There is no failure, only feedback
This presupposition is a very powerful one by which to live your life. Everyone makes mistakes and experiences setbacks. You have a choice between allowing yourself to be waylaid by your undesirable results or taking on-board the lessons that present themselves, dusting yourself off, and having another shot at jumping the hurdle.
4)The meaning of the communication is the response it elicits
No matter how honourable the intentions of your communications, the success of the interaction depends on how the listener receives the message, and not on what you intend. In other words, the response that your words elicit is the meaning of your communication.
5)If what you’re doing isn’t working, do something different
This presupposition is so simple, and yet you don’t always modify your behaviour when things don’t go as you want. After all, wandering through life wishing change on other people is easier, and you get to enjoy all the angst from thinking those horrible thoughts about someone else!
Remember that not everyone has your internal resources; the very fact that you’re reading my opinion means that you’re showing initiative in making changes in your life. We suggest that you’re going to expend a lot less energy in changing yourself than struggling to have other people conform to your ideals.
6)You can’t not communicate
Have you ever smiled at someone and said something really polite, but been thinking, ‘just drop dead’? No? Just as well, because we bet that the way you held your body or gritted your teeth didn’t fool anyone.
This fact is shown in a fascinating study, pioneered by Professor Albert Mehrabian. This research established that, when talking about feelings and attitudes – particularly when a discrepancy exists between body language and the words being used – what you say has a very small impact compared with the tone you use and how you hold your body. Other studies have subsequently suggested that the influences, in percentage terms, are as follows:
✓ Verbal (the words you say): 7 per cent
✓ Tonality (how you speak): 38 per cent
✓ Physiology (your body language): 55 per cent
7)Every behaviour has a positive intent
Unfortunately this presupposition also applies in reverse, to bad or nonproductive behaviour. With bad behaviour, the positive intention behind it, called secondary gain, is obscured.
Secondary gain is the benefit someone gets unconsciously from a particular behaviour that’s normally considered to be disempowering or bad. For example, a child may play the clown in class in order to gain acceptance by their peers, even though their teachers and parents find this clowning around quite destructive when they want them to be well behaved.
8)People are much more than their behaviour
I was watching a television programme on speeches given by important historical figures. She was intrigued by Martin Luther King’s response to a journalist on how to deal with racists. King could have been quoting the presupposition that people are more than their behaviour when he said: ‘I’m talking about a type of love that will cause you to love the person who does the evil deed while hating the deed that the person does.’
The point is that behaving badly doesn’t make someone a bad person. Separating the behaviour from the person is really important. People can behave badly when they don’t have the inner resources or ability to behave differently in that instance. Perhaps they find themselves in an environment that stops them from being the best they can be. Helping people to develop capabilities and skills, or move to a more conducive environment, can often change their behaviour dramatically and propel them to new levels of excellence.
9)The mind and body are interlinked and affect each other
Holistic medicine works on the premise that the mind affects the body and the body affects the mind. In order to maintain a healthy human being, a medical practitioner needs to do more than just suppress the symptoms. They have to examine the mind and body and treat both together.
10)Having choice is better than not having choice
NLP promotes choice for an individual as a healthy way of life. Sometimes you may feel that you don’t have the choice to change jobs, shift to another country, or get out of an unhappy relationship. You may find yourself saying, ‘I have no choice’ or ‘I must do this’.
You can be held back from making much needed change through fear of change, lack of confidence in your abilities, or even unawareness of what your strengths are. To combat this problem, NLP says ‘what if things were different?’, and aims to open up your horizons by making you conscious of all the resources you already have and can acquire.
NLP helps you to explore your reasons for wanting change, even if that reason is just a little niggle of discontent. Change can be choppy, like riding the rapids, but the people we know who have made it through – having decided on choices that they made for themselves – are much more content and in control of their lives.
11)Modelling successful performance leads to excellence
If you aspire to be a long-distance runner like Asha Agarwal and you’re able-bodied, display her single-minded determination, and have a support network, you can develop your beliefs and values to align your environment, capabilities, and behaviour to achieve your aspirations (read more about these categories in the earlier section ‘People are much more than their behaviour’).
12)Individuals have all the resources they need to achieve their desired outcomes
We love this presupposition because it’s so positive! This phrase means that everyone has the potential to develop and grow. The important point to make here is that you may not have all the internal resources you need, but you do have the necessary internal resources to acquire new internal and external resources.
13)The person with the most flexibility in the system ,he controls the system
The person with the most flexibility will have more choices and therefore have the most influence in any system. A choice is better than no choice and more choices are certainly better than less choices. Similarly, if what you are doing is not working, do something else. This highlights the need to change one’s behaviour and do something else, again and again if need be, until the desired outcome is achieved. In other words, one must be able to change readily to meet new circumstances.
What is Modelling with NLP?
NLP Modeling is the process of recreating excellence. We can model any human behavior by mastering the beliefs, the physiology and the specific thought processes (that is the strategies) that underlie the skill or behavior.
It is about achieving an outcome by studying how someone else goes about it. When Richard Bandler and John Grinder modeled the strategies of Virginia Satir, they were trying to achieve what many others before them had attempted. They wanted to duplicate her extraordinary results in family therapy.
What Bandler and Grinder did differently was to find the thinking strategies she was using, rather than merely copy behaviors. The biggest problem interviewing experts is that skills are usually unconscious. We can not explain how we walk, talk or write for instance. What makes you a successful parent or golfer? The expert’s own theories explain their success. These theories can include irrelevant habits and superstitions such as sportsmen and their lucky socks.